Article by Marlene Rivera (@sheisMarvelous)
The wind is cooler, your clothes are getting heavier, the sun dresses and cargo shorts are being packed up, and as Autumn approaches, the social media land begins to get flooded with talk of the annual phenomenon known as “cuffing season.” Is the idea that people get into relationships simply because of a weather change and approaching holidays an actual thing, or is it just for laughs?
Although this notion seems to have been created and thrived through platforms such as Twitter, there are many that avoid full-blown relationships and prefer the temporarily settling down for the season.
“Cuffing season” as defined by urbandictionary.com:
“During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.”
Men and women that find that they simply want a temporary romance participate in this fad for a comfort that they felt they didn’t need during the Summer months when they were spending time vacationing and/or meeting new people.
So how does a person go about choosing whom they want as their winter lover? Do they know that the relationship will end once spring arrives as they are getting into it?
While cuffing season is discussed and joked about like it is reality, the majority of people questioned about the season [via social networks] said that they don’t participate and that the idea of it is regional.
In places like the west coast and down south where a cold winter is a more of a foreign concept, people wouldn’t be too accustomed to having a significant other simply because they want someone to keep them warm at night. An obvious exception of this may be if the person wants to bring someone home for the holidays.
Now, in the northern parts of our nation, winters get pretty chilly and perhaps you don’t want to sip hot chocolate on your own, so you go and find someone that you can call yours for those snowy nights.
A man will most likely go into cuffing season looking for a woman that will be convenient for the time being. One that will cater to his needs, probably his sexual ones first and foremost, without expecting the title of girlfriend. This will be the woman that is down to pleasure him, cook for him and do whatever else he asks of her as long as she gets hers in return.
It’s hard to grasp a woman being willing to accept these terms because most women will secretly want, and expect, for the relationship to go beyond the typical October to January time period. Especially if she has been giving up the box for an extended period of time and ends up catching feelings.
These situations are likely to occur but it’s clear that both parties are still looking for the same thing; someone that’ll be available to meet their sexual needs and give them their time when they want it.
It is popular belief that men prefer a sex buddy to a girlfriend because it comes with less hassle, cuffing season or not. The commitment-free arrangement allows them to do whatever, and essentially whomever, they want without them having to feel remorse at the end of the day. Although this may be true, men expressed that they will “cuff” a woman when they want to, not just because the weather changes. So, essentially, if he wants you to be his – he’ll make you his. So, if you plan on participating in cuffing season this year, be real on your intentions.
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